It ain't a walk in the park
Some woman asks,
“when are you getting married?”
she knew a woman who’s boyfriend did not want to commit to her.
Another woman comments,
“you’re not planning to have kids?…that’s a shame”
As if the very acts of getting married and birthing
automatically bring meaning to one’s life.
And without a husband by your side
or kids trailing behind you,
you’re not a whole person.
Nobody tells you, “marriage ain’t a walk in the park”
or “I regret having kids”.
This is life.
A flow of ever-changing moments.
No major milestone defines who you are.
As a woman or a man.
Ask me instead --
what are your fears?
where lies your wounds?
your desires and
See me for who I am,
not by the roles I play,
the colour of my skin,
the people that surround me,
or the possessions that I have.
They do not define me.